Jumping in (1st post)

[Gardener]

I'm all over it, stilly. All the distance she wants, really. And I'm slowly but surely becoming Mr. PMA As-iffing lake all hell, and it's starting to take hold slowly (as in Plate-Tectonics-slowly,) but it's happening.

Great 2nd TeleCoach session (redundant) tonight w/Dottie. I'll skip all the details, but suffice it to say that after a recap of my two weeks since the last one she said I'm doing great! Doin' it right on virtually every count.
She agrees with you that despite already leaving and asking for D 4 weeks ago (and never mentioning it again/moving towards it, yet), this is not a TLR sitch yet. Coach sees tons of ambivalence, confusion, mixed signals. (MC once told me W's mixed signals were less yes/no mixed signals and more like a short-circuited traffic light: red-yellow-yellow-red-green-yellow-red-red, etc.).So much more transpired telecoaching, all of it good and several really great ideas/actions for next few days, etc. Since S and DIL are living with me (and DIL talks frequently to W), I even went so far as dressing to the nines, driving off in my car to park and call coach, then going to dinner and a movie, coming home some 4+ hours later. Be a bit mysterious, right?

Uh oh. Just remembered that wife pays cell phone bill online (I pay land line), so she'll see telecoach session phone #s (Dottie's in Michigan). Oh, well, more mystery.

Thank you, all. As my own dust begins to settle and I become accepting and focused, I will spend more time (and two-centsing) on others' threads and become more of a contributor and less of a taker. But please know you have made the difference these past two weeks or so.

And, please forgive the jumping around writing style (I tried to write a paragraph once without parentheses; I passed out).