Newcomer requesting advice

[traveldane]

Thanks Sandi.

I want your honesty, your gut reaction...I appreciate your insight immensely.

H. emailed me today, looking to set up arragements to address the finances. He requested that we only talk by email "in order to give ourselves a chance to respond without so much emotion".

I am going to take a few days off from thinking about it all, as best as I can.I have so much to do with the move and closing out things here in D.C., so will really just focus on that for now.

I had a bit of a melt down today, realizing how much being forced to accept what H. has chosen is like having to accept what happened with our baby. Seems like it should have been more obvious, but I guess sometimes the truth needs to hit us over the head. We had 1 "regular" miscarriage before the traumatic one and I think I am tired of feeling blindsided in my life and having to swallow loss and keep grinning, pushing forward. Not trying to have a pitty party, just realized that maybe some of my fatigue and losing composure with H is beyond just the marriage loss.

thanks for checking in with me. Hope you are well, feeling well, things are going well :-)