Summer 2009

[Between Tears]

Hi Mermaid,

So sweet of you to stop by.... and yes, the children and I will be together again one day. In the mean time, I have days like today where we are together in spirit. Today, the two of them are together, on their way to make the plan into a reality. LOL.....

I just has a call from them, they were in PetsMart checking out guinea pigs and parakeets... They decided to go to Walmart to check out the prices on supplies first, and plan on returning to PetsMart to make their purchases. LOL... of course they included me as they were scoping out the stores.

Their voices light, I could hear enthusiam, excitement, and a bit of devilment.... they are having fun! I'm sure I'm going to get blamed for this, however, just listening to them today will make the whole thing worth it. They are working together, and with the two of them, as smart as they are, all will be perfect.

[job]

I'm sure your children thoroughly enjoyed themselves shopping for just the right creatures to take home. I sure hope Dick doesn't take out his anger on them for getting the little creatures.

The pleasure that they had in shopping is priceless. I hope their laughter and excitement helped to make you feel a bit better today.

Please let us know what they decided to purchase.

[Between Tears]

Hi Snodderly,

So far they have picked up a neon blue and a neon green parakeet.

As for Dick, he's in Tennessee... and the beauty of their plan. You see, Jane will call him and tell him what they have done. Of course Dick will become angry, but Jane will catch the initial brunt force of his tyrant, they won't answer their phones, and he is too far away for it to matter to them. By the time he returns Wednesday or Thursday, the initial rage will be long gone, as he will be down to just b*ing, and they learned to ignore that a long time ago.

S did tell me Jane told Dick since S is watching Grandpa, he should be paid at least $100/week for doing so. Dick grumbled something about an 85 chevy truck he purchased for S last year, and plans to replace the transmission and give him the car for his efforts. They must have compromised somewhere, because S is now receiving a whopping $40/week now.

Considering the work he does, and what he puts up with from Grandpa, he due a lot more. But it's not my relationship, I have no control, and it will probably be another reason S feels the way he does about his Father.

I guess Grandpa went after S a couple of days ago for "stealing his underwear"... Not only is Grandpa much larger than S, S wouldn't be caught dead in tighty whities... as the situation was laughable when S told me about it. At the time though, Grandpa was irrate, and this is something I am worried about. Dick received his example from this man during his childhood, and it wasn't too long ago I learned about it from the man at the store. This I think I can use come next month.

Well, it's shower time, and my "thursday".... just another night to go until my weekend.

[dl443322]

Hi, you were so kind to post to me, I thought I'd stop by. I have not caught up totally on your sitch, but may I say, you are one strong lady!

First of all, how is your health? I hope that you are taking care of yourself. How is your daughter? That must be so tough on you knowing that she is suffering.

I am amazed by all you have been through and are going through and that you can still find some humor in life.

Well, Jane seems to be trying a bit. I guess that's something.

I will keep you in my prayers.

[BeingMe]

Hope things go well in July, L. This has been such a long, seemingly neverending journey for you, but it seems the end is near. I so hope so. Is it possible to try and get social services in CA involved --- your D's condition is rather worrying?

Try and focus on getting your health back. It sure sounds like being in contact with your kids help in that regard, 'eh.

Take care.

[Between Tears]

BeingMe,

Yes, my kids are my life, my reason for being.... having constant contact does help me feel whole, and a lot better.

I am worried about D, her situation isn't good, for her father says she's just eating healthy, but like most of us, he enjoys his denial. Her condition is a part of her drive, her straight "A's", her need to be constantly near perfect, and it is beginning to take over her life. Food is quickly becoming the enemy, and when she does eat, she makes sure she runs.... what she needs most is to feel control in her life, to feel that her needs are important, her feelings, heard, and she needs the quiet time or down time she has only found at home. The stress of all that has gone on has gotten to us all.

Coming home won't fix everything, only time and a feeling of security will begin the healing.... then the work will begin.

Hopefully July will be full of miracles, the kind of miracles that come from above.

As for my health, I can honestly say for the very first time, it's not me holding up the process! I hope to hear something today about my appointment with a Rhuematologist, then of course it will take a while before the appointment date...but I have time, lots of time to deal with this.

Now, all I have to do is get a little sleep... sleeping when everyone else is awake is difficult sometimes.

[job]

I hope that everything falls into place and soon. Well, how are the animals or should I say bird (thus far) making out? Lots of noise?

What's with the underwear? Did his grandfather find them? I can tell you, they will accuse you of anything and everything when they have that disease. They also can be very mean and strong too.

I'm glad the wife stepped up and suggested that your son receive some compensation. That's not an easy job.

Please rest as much as you can.

[Between Tears]

Hi Snodderly,

The birds are doing well. So are the kids. They are enjoying each other and learning about something new. The birds make lots of noise when they are out of the cages and sitting with the children. Apparently, both birds enjoy sitting in/on the kids' hands or on their shoulders, and for the kids, this is a dream come true. I could hear the birds while the kids were on the phone with me, yup they make lots of noise. LOL

I don't know what the deal with the underwear was, except Grandpa was very angry, clenching fists and nashing teeth mad. Both children talk about seeing their grandfather in this stance, and it's often enough to worry me. He's always been a strong man, even when he patted my back during a hug, his pats often were sharp, not comforting at all. One of those weird things that stuck with me from the very beginning.

D was telling Grandpa watches her make a bowl of oatmeal in the morning, so this morning he made his own bowl, yet didn't heat it, or put it in the microwave... just poured milk over the oatmeal and took a spoon to it. D tried to tell him he needed to heat it, but he became angry with her, and she let it go, went up stairs to her room, which both kids have told me they do when he gets mad. They wait for some time to pass, and hour or so, and when they return downstairs, grandpa has forgotten all about what ever he was angry about.

Grandpa calls Dick "the boss" and most days, thinks D is S's daughter. The kids take him whenever they go around town, he really enjoyed PetsMart, he was rather fond of the puppies, didn't care for the rats or hampsters. They have to keep an eye on him at all times, for he doesn't remember who he is with, will wonder off with almost anybody. The days don't flow into the other with him, as he has no recollection of what happened even a few hours earlier. Both children have told me, Grandpa doesn't like women, and this is something also shared with Dick. It's no wonder Jane isn't at home very often.

Yes, I was quite impressed with Jane telling Dick S deserved compensation. She stepped out on a limb, for S said it didn't make Dick happy at all... He doesn't like being put on the spot at all.

It's an interesting mess to say the least.

As for me, rest didn't come as long as I wanted... it's been 2 hours at the most, although most days I get two, 2 hour naps... today just wasn't one of them. It will be over soon. The doctors office called me today and let me know they too are still waiting to hear back from the rheumatologist. I'm sitting back knowing it all be in it's own time.

Yippee.... It's my friday night, tomorrow will time to relax.

Take care of you!

[Between Tears]

I now have my appointment, July 2. So my situation is moving along nicely.

S on the other hand, on Tuesday night, decided to get his father's attention AND make his point clear. Dick, was not thrilled with the birds, but only took his feelings out on S.... Just the same way his father did when he was young. While he was still in TN, he called S, who forgot to ignore his calls, was asked "So what are the birds all about?" S answered "because I wanted a pet." Apparently, it's Jane that has the problem with the birds...

Later that evening, S took the truck with Dick's debit card which he left for S to have the vehicles "smogged" (some test they have for vehicles in Cali) and filled the truck with gas, then finding out mid month, Dick has no money left in his acount, and at least two more weeks before he'd get paid. S had to use the money I sent to him to pay the fuel bill, and this made him even angrier, decided to drive around until he cooled off before returning home.

S received two calls from Dick for him to return to the house, and the third call, S answered and told him he'd go back when he was good and ready and not a minute before. Mind you, this is the most attention Dick has given him since his arrival on May 9th. S also told him that he sick and tired of being in Cali, sick and tired of wasting his life here and wants to go home. Dick told S he doesn't have a home in KS, and he was going to stay there. This of course didn't make S happy.

On Wednesday, S and D picked up Dick at the airport, Dick brought D to the Doctors, but not for her back, but for an incident she had weeks ago nearly passing out. The findings so far is that she is hypoglycemic.... something we had discovered some 3 or 4 years ago... but of course, Dick wouldn't listen to anything I would tell him. Now he sees she has some dinner. Her back still remains a mystery.

Dick is using credit cards to make it through, even took the kids out to dinner last night for sushi.... how he has credit cards only 3 years after his bankruptcy, or even been able to buy his home, I'll never know... don't care even, but it seems that he just won't learn. His house in Cali is $150,000 more than the mortgages on the farms... yet he said he couldn't afford to keep it with his income. I wish there was something I could do to expose this lies, and what he is actually doing, but I'm afraid he's too good at manipulating everybody and everything.

Today S had to run to the store to get milk. Gone only 20 minutes... while he was gone, Grandpa emptied the refridgerator on the floor, dumping every jar he could open. S had a mess to clean up when he got back, and he wasn't too happy about when he called me to vent.

Dick wants S to go with Jane when she comes back here to pick up her kids to bring them to california. S says he is going for the ride out, but he isn't going to return to cali. I'm not sure what he has planned, but he sounded certain about his decision. I think the trip is scheduled for next week... we will see what happens.

[Between Tears]

Okay, now Dick brought D to the doctor, but not for her back, but for a near fainting spell she had weeks before.... weeks!?!?!? The findings, she has low blood sugar... however, now that Dick knows that I know, he's denying the results and saying D is healthy, and her blood tests were normal. You know why? Because he knows if the court catches the idea that stress plays a big role in hypoglycemia, they may reconsider her permenant placement in Cali.... That's okay, I have her medical records from the year we initially discovered D's hypoglycemia, and will give it to my attorney.

Dick is also playing Dr. with his Father, and has decided to reduce Grandpa's medication. The result? Gpa has become more aggitated and aggressive. Good move Dick! But he's not there, he's not dealing with Grandpa, he's on a trip to Kansas with Jane. You see Jane is picking up three of her kids, as the her oldest is now going to be a daddy himself, needs to continue to work and make money at home. Oh, the big Brady Bunch summer is about to begin! You see Jane has night blindness, and can't drive by herself, so Dick went with her so they were all arrive home safely.

What about my kids? Well, they are left behind, alone in Cali with Grandpa.... Hey, Dick left them the keys to the truck and $40, what more can a parent do? Argh! D needs the truck to work over the weekend, so S will remain in the house with Grandpa.... oh, don't feel too bad, cause the boy made plans, and he's inviting the kids he met from school (when he was stuck there last year) and throwing a 3 day party! Oh, Grandpa won't remember, he doesn't remember one hour into the next... So S is making the best of the hand he was given.

When Dick and Jane arrive with her kids, they plan on having Jane's oldest D (16) share D's(16) room/bed (a double bed), her youngest S (14) share the room/bed (a futon) with S(17) and her baby(7) will sleep with Dick and Jane.... mind you, Dick sleeps in the buff. The only two children who get along are my two.... well, Jane's D has a major crush on my S, and Jane thinks this is great, while it leaves me with a sick and sour stomach.

As for me, I'm spinning around, wondering when will Karma come back around, or will karma betray me too?

Back to my day, already in progress... Have a great day everyone.