Pheonix might be right. I think it is possible to sort of over DB. We have talked about that a little. I was kind of like you describe yourself. I turned into house cleaning, chick flick watching puss boy. It sort of created a cross between an entitlement monster and a wife who loves me like her gay best friend. It kept her in the house but the last year has been about reclaiming my nards.
But you know what, if this ends badly; you won't be sitting at the bar with your motorcycle outside when it hits you, that she left because you were a dick and did nothing for the marriage.
You are doing the best you can and it is admirable. Now you gotta think about what you must do so you can look yourself in the mirror and feel good about yourself today...and see your balls if you happen to be standing naked in front of the mirror. Maybe if you were feeling better about you, the rest would follow. I guess I am parroting the party line but I find when I can do these things, it really does help everything else.
Good luck, try to read that stuff I sent you when you get chance.
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
