This is what has happened in my sich, My wife was so selfish while having her affair (she wont call it that)and I knew she was trying to keep her options open by being loving to me and showing me "just enough" for me to keep on going but she slammed me down so many times that I did the 'Get A Life" bit after what I thought was the final fight of our life and it ended up with me going astray to a woman that was the opposite of my wife. The next day my wife starts telling me that after almost a year she realized that I am the one she has always loved. When she asked, I had to tell her "Yes I slept with someone" Now all bets are probably off. I was able to forgive her but she will not be able to forgive me even in light of all she put me through.
