I'm so glad that I can help you. I know your pain, I really do.
We pay a young girl $10/hr and we also feed her and her boyfriend and his daughter if they come along. We just did dinner and a movie this weekend, which was terrific. I hadn't been in a movie theatre since I was pregnant (my son is 18 months old.) We've gone bowling, which is great for us because it is interactive and usually brings forth a ton of laughter. It is very expensive, and sometimes we can only afford once a month. But that still does so much for us.
You have to feel sexy for your man to see you as sexy. Once a man hears you complain about your weight or your looks, it is a huge turn-off. So, get in touch with your inner diva and LOVE IT! The fact that you were able to feel sexy before your marriage tells me that the SSM has eroded your self-esteem. Don't stand for it! Get yourself back through GALing. Spend quality time with yourself and do things that make you feel good. Paint your toenails, curl your hair, take a bubble bath, read your favorite magazines, treat yourself to new sexy underwear. Do things that bring you happiness and make you feel like a woman.
Forget about how your H "seems uncomfortable with anything sexual." Let him be uncomfortable. If YOU are comfortable being a sexy, flirtatious creature, then be that glorious creature. His discomfort is what HE creates. It is up to him to face his own issues and work on them. It isn't up to you to stifle this very important part of your self in order to avoid making him uncomfortable.
Be brave and show him that you are sexual and that you want him. He just might start to wonder about this mysterious world that he's been avoiding.
