Hey kids, sorry for not posting, I've had a watershed few days.. had a BIG talk with bf last night and he wants to move back in. I also got my degree result.. and I passed! I didnt do as well as I hoped, but I finished and done AND on the same day as bf said this morning, NOT to give notice on my house today (as I cant afford to live here alone anymore).. but that he will move back in. So, what wierd timing that was.
Mish.. thanks for checking on me, I told bf about you last night! He asked how I knew Kalni and I ended up telling him about a "support group". He looked very upset but I told him it was great and had made lots of friends there... Ditto Kat! Funny, I did more than 5 pressups yesterday and I am paying for it today..but thats because I went to the Tang Soo Do grading and I got my yellow belt...woohoo!!!
Hey ITH, I never really 'got' it before when I used to read how you struggled with your H.. but I do now. We have to hold our own so to speak and NOT put any emotion on them, or just tiny bits. But yes, things have moved very fast for me and him and after just 4 weeks he has agreed to move back in.. but yes he still hasnt said "I love you" apart from that one time a few weeks ago, after he had had some drinks !
Saffie, thanks for your post.. you reminded me that although I was sorry and loving after my EA, it was also probably a year later before I was able to REALLY express how sorry I was. I can see in him that he is embarressed too for how he was a WA like that and didnt talk to me, but he is still reticent to talk directly about stuff and I am finding it easier to let it go and wait for it to all come out organically..
Cyrena, hello! He is behaving in similiar ways to your H.. he has a female friend coming to stay in a few weeks.. she is the BF of his BMF and they once dated about 14 years ago. Shes never stayed with him before and has broken up with her bf, so I was concerned when I found out and didnt hide it too well, but he was very reassuring and said it was "sweet" that I checked if there was anything to worry about. I shutup pretty quick and havent mentioned it again. He ended up telling me last night that the 22 year old is "not really a mate" so I am not concerned about her either.. but I see a little resistance in him still..but as he has said he wants to move back in, I'm going to wait for the commitment and not worry for now.
K.. thanks for the drinks !! I have a funny story to tell you sometime too about that book..
