Is your W in any kind of IC? Is there a chance that she would consider MC with you? Just from what you have written there seems to be a lot of issues on both sides that have contributed to the breakdown of the M.

Sorry you have to be here but this is the best place to be if you are looking for help.

M:39
H:39
K:S14;D8
T:22yr
M:15yrs
S:12/28/07 EA/PA
3/14/08 OW preg
11/17/08 born
12/12/08 his
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Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option