Fire's burning out...just smoldering

[Sugar and Spice]

Happy Belated Birthday lady!

I know I'm harping...but, my Mom was saying that she thinks the whole "family" thing...the pictures, the party for K with people who don't even know her, my H cooking and OW posting how wonderful he is on FB, my H even made my daughter's birthday cake. He DOESN'T cook. At least he didn't when he was with me. So, my Mom says that she believes that both of them are putting up this fake front because 1) OW wants more than anything to be married and have a "family"...even if it is a fake one, even if she destroyed someone elses to get it, she wants it and any cost. That could also mean she doesn't really even care that it's my H. It could have been anyone who was willing to marry her. Makes a lot of sense. And, 2) My H has to prove to everyone that he made the right decision...see I have my family, my house, a new wife, a new life, I'm happy. It's better that I walked out on my pregnant wife...look how much happier "I" am.
A$$holes.

Listen to your mom, she is a very wise woman. Its dead on what the deal is. OW wants what she wants and it doesn't really matter who the players are, its the fantasy she is after....married, kids, family etc... If it was truly about love or committment or the stuff that love and family is really about, she wouldn't have had to raid your M to get it. H has to play the game because look at the hole he has dug for himself with this situation? He has to save face by pretending that this is what he wants and is Oh, so happy because if he doesn't then he will look like the schmuck he truly is. Don't worry for a second about how "happy" they will be...the cracks are in the foundation already and all it will take is a tremor or two for the whole thing to come tumbling down.

You and K are going to be just fine and you will find the man out there that deserves you and treats you the way you should be.

I know it hurts, but you can at least know that it won't be you he is dragging down with him.