That, too, was difficult for me to get my head around. It was The Fear that had me in its grasp -- I was running. Running from everything. Fearful that any given thing I would do would "ruin it" and be the "final straw."
Until it dawned on me one day that it had already been ruined! That the final straw had already been stacked! How much worse could it get?
And when I stopped being afraid, things got better. Not "marriage" things, mind you -- me things. Which was something else I finally got my head around.
I was not my marriage.
My marriage was not me.
You are now officially a "Snake Killer." DB Special Forces.
Glad for you brother, pay it forward.
Cheers Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
