I can't possibly help you if you keep going off and doing what you're determined to do. I'm not trying to be harsh or anything, but let's face something: your instincts haven't exactly worked, have they.
You come on here on Saturday, a wreck, asking for help, and we tell you NOT TO DO ANYTHING, and you go and pack up all her stuff, have a major confrontation with her. Then we tell you not to contact her, and NOT to have any R talks, and you're doing it the very same day.
I'm afraid I can't help you.
Puppy
Puppy-
please read my response above; I did not box her stuff up, I did not initiate a conversation with her until I came home Sun afternoon to find her moving out and then I asked why? Our conversation was not confrontational; it was honest and not angry. She sent me a text later that night apologizing for misinterpreting what I said but thought we should just let things settle for a few days and she'll call me to talk later this week. I've gone dark, no contact, waiting for her to contact me.
We were doing well with therapy and discussions until Friday when the real OM issue came about and this has set us back . She is willing to sit down and fully disclose the facts of the relationship and that's a good sign. This is a setback but is still salvageable and I would really appreciate your help. I can understand your frustration about not having any R talks but what should I have done when I came home and found her packing up; she gave no prior indication she was leaving and I did not ask her to leave or want her to leave. She made an assumption, made a poor decision and it caught me totally by surprise. When I could see she just wanted to be apart I stopped the discussion and she left.
