Instead, you may want to limit your time on this board for a start. Going cold - turkey can be difficult. Set aside a time during the day, work in that time, and then stop when it's done. Same for your thoughts around the relationship. Try and limit your time of thinking about it to those times. Save up, get it out, and then go back to your routine. Your routine is important.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
