I think a lot of the WAS are dysfunctional in some way; a lot with difficult or even horrible childhoods from what I've seen. My H has an alcoholic mother; both parents were kind of absent and they were raised largely by a housekeeper from what they've said. I think it's probably difficult & sometimes impossible for the WAS to have healthy Rs unless they do some serious counseling and work on themselves. And many don't of course. I do believe though that anyone can change and get healthy if they wish to and do the work. But they have to come to that themselves. Karen
