Well it's six days until my first wedding anniversary. Only 2 or 3 short months ago I never thought I would be separated from my W during this time.
Another reason she could be so torn about the BIL is the kind of art he did. He was into tattooing and did a lot of work on her. So she will permanently have his art stitched into her skin. Maybe she feels bad that that connection she had with her BIL was permanently ripped away.
Speaking of which she showed some of her tattoo work done on her online on a blog. I figure if she didn't want me to see it or say anything she could have hid me in her settings. I decided to say that it looked good and very subtly let her know that she looked hot. Those comments weren't deleted nor was I chastised so I figure she still appreciates the attention from me. I worded them in such a way where it could only be taken as complimentary and without expectation. During happier times she loved it when I told her how beautiful she was or when it didn't seem like I could keep my hands off her. She really enjoyed being nurtured in that way and would tell me so. I figure she might still appreciate that in a more subtle manner (yes I am going to keep my hands off). Hey I figure if she wants to know my feelings for her I can still hint that I think she's attractive.
Anyway I am glad I have a coaching session tomorrow..