Fire's burning out...just smoldering

[blindsided1]

Thank you everyone for the warm birthday wishes. It was a nice day. By the time I woke up, I had at least 2 dozen birthday emails, texts, messages. It was really nice. My friend took me to lunch. Then we went to dinner for my birthday and listened to a guitarist while drinking pear martinis...yum. H never called or texted...big surprise. So, Sat H calls and asks if we can have sex when he comes over. WTH? I said "no". He comes to pick K up around 7. It's a decent conversation. Tells me my birthday present is in his pants. SOrry, that's no present, anymore. He leaves. Calls about an hour later "did you file the divorce papers?". I tell him not yet, I'm doing it on the 18th. We get in a conversation and he tells me that he is marrying OW. I say "Fine. It's better for K and me, anyway. Now, when you quit or get fired, she can pay K's child support." And, hang up. I know...I was upset. I knew it was coming, but it still hurt. He texts me some mean thing and says "just finalize our divorce". I text back "It's be done soon. I don't love you anymore. Sad, isn't it? That I tried so hard to continue to love you knowing you didn't give a sh!t about your pregnant wife. She did me a favor, I just didn't know it til now. Good Luck" End of convo

Sunday, he brings her home 2 hours earlier than he said he would...guess what? He asks me if we can go in the house and have sex. I said "Are you crazy? You tell me you are marrying someone else, can't wait to divorce me and now you want to have sex?" He says, "Well, there's still time before you aren't my wife anymore". He's an idiot. An utter idiot.

MIL said K had a good time at the birthday party he threw for K. Too bad only 4 of the 30 people there were related to her or even knew her. Seems weird that OW's friends and family are celebrating MY daughter's birthday. They don't even know her.

I have to admit, it kinda hurt to know that it wasn't H and I giving her a birthday party together as a family. It still makes me angry that OW gets to have MY family and MY H and destroyed mine, to get it. I know life isn't fair. But, it still hurts. She deserves NOTHING. And, when she realizes that this "family" is as phoney as phoney, gets...well, she'll be broke, in debt up to her ears and tied to a man who is basically just an anchor.