Why not?

[aliveandkicking]

fanning the flames of their insecurity by putting so much stock in BS Lalaland fabulosity

That's a whole other support board (cue: rueful LOL). We'll have to talk that one out over coffee. I worry about it in lots of ways, especially with S's 10th coming up.

Ya, it is bad enough living in Lalaland, least we could do is not get swallowed up in the beast.

I saw something on your thread about W blaming the war and on Thinker's thread (W recognizing her father's death's impact) that made me think. H's references to not knowing how things got so complicated really strikes me as a sort of lightening up of things being all my fault and acknowledging that circumstances had a lot to do with our M demise...