I hate my H

[Done in VA]

But I'm just kind of telling myself - who cares?"
You do.

Is the goal to get myself to the point where I do get a divorce bc I don't give a rat's @$$ about H either?

To a point.. yes. Yet the general idea is to not "fear" what is coming. You should be prepared for what is coming.

Do you mean emotionally? How do I "prepare"?

This will most likely change.

Why? What do you mean?

"I just feel like our R has dwindled to nothing."

So now you share something in common with him.

"There isn't even anything to talk about anymore."

see the above comment.

Do you mean this to be a good thing?