well maybe now you have some clarity. You are a coparent. Period.
And You DID have a nice evening. The only thing that "Ruined" it for YOU is that you had expectations of more, and that is what we've ALL said NOT to do....that's on you. Your expectations were NOT realistic at all, as you grasped at straws making mountains out of molehills and think every scrap of decent conversation is one step away from reconciling...so you practically force her to be mean so she can feel safe around you and not worry that you are AGAIN reading into stuff...you created the misery yourself. You could say instead, "we had a nice evening" and leave it at that, happy that you had a nice time....(And said NOTHING about OM, OR "And she is dating OM again:. Either way - they are SEPARATE EVENTS) a nice evening....and oh, btw, she is seeing OM. What's new about this? What's surprising you?
She is seeing OM and is NOT seeing you as anything other than the coparent. How many times will she need to demonstrate this before you believe her?
Also, She ought to be able to say when the kids have tried her patience, and who better than you, to say it to? It means nothing about her parenting. Maybe other things do, but not that comment especially since they have been fighting all week long. Let her "bond" with you about the girls and commiserate for God's sake. Don't argue or compete with her about that. Geez.
So, okay. you are both parents of some girls. Okay now do your best as a dad. Do your best as whatever you are at work, ( and grow as a man. Leave the results up to God.
A HUGE part of growing as a man requires counselling so we are all rooting for you to tell it like it is to the C and get started building yourself into the man you want to become. Good luck, J-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
