I hate my H

[Forrest Gump]

"If you read post to Jimbo, it gives some details of this weekend. Trying to GAL. Trying to detach."

"I guess I don't know what it means to truly detach."

Again a big part of this is "control".

"I still get disappointed when I don't see any progress."

This is a example of the "control"

"I still get disappointed when I don't see any progress."

Cause you are not in "control".

"But I'm just kind of telling myself - who cares?"

You do.

"why would I expect anything else?"

Cause to a point.. you are looking back on times you had "control".

"I have stopped living in fear."

To a point.. yes. Yet the general idea is to not "fear" what is coming. You should be prepared for what is coming.

"I haven't been worrying about things as much."

This will most likely change.

"Haven't been thinking about what if he files for divorce?"

But the point would be.. what if you had the papers right now?

"I mean I do think about it some & then say - there's nothing I can do if he does & that is the end of the thought. "

Again to a point.. yes. You are too focused on what may happen. I want you to be prepared for what will happen.

"I just feel like our R has dwindled to nothing."

So now you share something in common with him.

"There isn't even anything to talk about anymore."

see the above comment.

"I guess I don't worry about it & continue on being the best me I can & living my life & being a great mom. Coaching call w/Laurie tomorrow morning."

I expect a full detail of "Living with Laurie".

You are on the cusp of learning something. You will have to tell me what it is.

I know I seem "better than thou". That is not my intention. My goal is.. again.. to make you think. I want to see you write it out. I want to see you get "Emotional" with me. So far so good.

I am just a simple guy that has worn your shoes. And most likely if you talk straight to me.. I can help a little.

Think "inside" the box that I gave you.

Watch what is going on around you.

Don't get "run over".

Now...