yes, have been in counseling, but for obvious reasons, this loss of marriage seems intertwinned with loss of the baby...
and this fall when H. started melting down and withdrawing I spent a lot of time putting my grief and emotional needs aside because it was like, his world was crashing some how more...i explained this with stuff about how he not only loss of our child but was also facing loss of his family (long story kind of explained in first post) but the thing is, we both were really hurting. One thing I have learned from this, I will never swallow my own sadness and take on someone elses again. it doesn't help, doesn't work, and they some how ending up resenting you for it anyway.
Me 30 H 33 together:10 years married:5 years Separated: 1/23/09 living apart 5 mos and counting "when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR
