I'm excited to hear more about the adjustments when your H gets home, and it sounds like he's ready to work on all of the R's. It's really neat that he wants to take an acting class to better u/s what the family's been up to. That will take him out of his comfort zone and maybe he'll really enjoy it! Charades at home could go to a completely new level with a family full of actors! haha!
I think it's great you're planning to visit the C and make sure everyone's doing alright. Also, the DB coaching... your posts are full of insight and encouragement, but absolutely it makes sense you would need someone to bounce your concerns and plans off of...
By the newbie standards, yes, it seems you have busted your D but, your caution makes total sense. Can't wait to see your revised signature re: DBusted - b/c I think you can/will/are doing it!!