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[pauld2100]

Kevin,
Here's a post I found... Please read it carefully! I know how so many peole giving you input at one time can baffle you, it happened to me... there are parts that apply to you...

I was also sucked in by my W and thought I was doing the right thing... your not a doormat! Read back through your posts and read carefully!

Here's a post from someone that did this....


serendipity17

LRT can work! Absolutely no question about it. My sitch was as bad as they come, my W was totally gone. I don’t want to hijack here but a quick review, She went to Vegas and had an affair after 18 years of being faithful. She must have liked something about the experience because she just went nuts after that. She got into everything, Internet chatting, internet porn, internet personals, phone sex, and of course PA’s. She wanted a D! No if’s and’s or but’s!

I believe the trick with going dark is believing it yourself. I “went dark” and tried to GAL several times but I didn’t really mean it. If W would show the slightest interest I would try to cling to it. Ok long story short, I finally got fed up and I really mean I was fed up. I issued an ultimatum and I meant it. W told me to &^&*% my self so I filed for D. Now how dark is that! A few weeks later I went on a date with someone I had met at a wedding dance, it was no big deal. A week after that guess who shows up crying and begging, yup W!

This time I didn’t jump at the chance in fact I pushed her away. She kept coming back and we did go to some counseling but after careful consideration I have decided to move on with my life. The point is that it can work, even in the worst possible situation and what they say is true. Even if your S doesn’t come back you will be a better, stronger person.

By the way, my W still wants to reconcile but I have made my decision that I do not want to spend another 18 years with her. I know my life is going to be better with out her in it.