You give lots of good advice on this board. You know that your emotions can and will ambush you from time to time. Don't let these intense feelings have a life of their own. You DO have control over your thoughts, feelings, and actions. We both know it's logical and rational to have these feelings and emotions under circumstances like these...but that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. You are a strong lady, so exercise that strength.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.