Now that's not everyone's sitch; I get that. Maybe Friendiness won't work in @pollyanna's sitch. But the Friendiness attitude -- Taking The High Road -- certainly can't hurt her. It certainly can't make her a worse-off person and, given the worst outcome for her, it at least minimizes the effects somewhat because she'll always have the thought balloon that says "I am so much better than you, H."
Thank you SP - let me know when your ready to remarry. LOL
My thoughts right now is that we, on these boards are here because we know how to love. Our WAS cannot of loved us or our families as they should. Love is not selfish ..... etc.
I really get the saying
'Better to of loved and lost , than never too of loved at all '
Thoughts are with you and the kids. This day is one they will remeber there entire life. You handle yourself with that in mind.
