D9's appointment on Wednesday went as well as could be expected. I was not in with her and the C, but instead we decided I would go in for her normal appointment on Thursday--D9 did not need to go. She said we would talk about things said with D9 then and to just make sure she got her meds down. She did mention that they hd the doc explain to D9, at her level, what happens when she does not take her meds. DH did not get off work in time to make D9's appointment, but was at the house by the time we got there. D9 did not, or would not, tell DH anything that was said. He stayed until 9 again, then left.
Wednesday night, D17 snuck out of the house. I caught her within minutes. I locked up the whole house after walking around outside to see if she was out there. Then, I called her cell. She did not answer, but called back in less than 5 minutes. Said she was on the front porch the whole time, to which I threw the BS flag. Said she had a bad dream about D9 being hurt and bleeding and DH not doing anything to help her out, but walking away toward the OW. I let her back in the house and stayed up until after 5 to make sure she did not take off again. I was wiped out on Thursday and glad that I did not have to muster the energy to put up with DH.
I took D17 to her C appointment where she was dressed down for her blatantly disrespectful behavior--lying, sneaking out, not sticking to curfews, etc. C said she felt like DH needed to come in with D17 for an appointment as soon as it was possible. D17 was going to confront him at home, but C felt a mediator would be better. We are not going to tell DH ahead of time about the appointment so he cannot bug out, but will jus have D17 ask him to go back with her--her next appointment is 7/2 and is only 15 minutes prior to D9's.
Went in later to see D9's C and she said that a visitation schedule will be a lose/lose for the kids. Without one, they are devastated by his disappearing acts, but with one they will lose out on the continual contact that they-and DH-enjoy so much. C said that it is obvious that DH loves his kids very much from the limited contact she has had with him. also said that she sees, under all of his bluster, that DH is still in love with me, but cannot see his way to end things with Ow and come back home. Told me to continue to love him, allow him as much access to the kids as I can take, and to continue to be consistent in my behavior around him--sounds like she has read DB and yet says she had never heard of it before she met me!
DH had duty Thursday, so no contact with him.
Friday, we had to take D17's dress in for alterations for my cousin's wedding next week--got tot the house right after DH did. Then, left the other kids with him and took D6 for a haircut.
When I got back, we cleaned up the kids to head over my sister's for kind of a rehearsal dinner, as they were not having any type of a rehearsal before my niece's wedding. DH was over there and my family was nice as pie to him. DH mentioned, in front of my dad, that he would not be seeing the kids after the wedding Saturday and would not see them on Sunday. When I asked, he confirmed that he would not be attending friend's wedding with me. After he walked out to play with the kids, my dad shook his head and sighed. I told him that was the first I had heard about it and I would bet money that OW was here or was coming in. My dad said he was sure that was the case and that he really hoped that DH woke up soon before he lost not just me, but the kids, too.
We left my sis's about 10ish and Dh helped me load the kids in the car, told me he would be over to help me with them in the morning (all 3 of the girls were in the wedding) and told me to drive carefully.
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
