GH31 - Dilemma with my pregnant wife

[GH31]

I have had better weekends than this last one just gone.

Sara & Saffie thanks so much for hanging in there with me, it's very much appreciated. I have found other things like SMSs asking OM to marry her (which he forwarded to me) and other horrible things.

She is mentally unstable.

Yes, I would agree with you.

Everybody that I have confided in about this says either "weird", "strange", "odd" or "peculiar". Or "something's just not right GH31, you have to get rid of her".

Have you actually seen the positive pregnancy test results and if you have were you there when she took them?

W definitely is pregnant. I saw the positive test result, went to the doctor's with her and heard the baby's heartbeat and then went to the ultrasound clinic 2 weeks ago. The baby was there bouncing around and the sonographer measured its heartbeat.

I am afraid that I am suspicious of everything she does.

So am I.

Do you really still love someone that can do this to you or do you just not want to see yourself failing at something?

I don't know how I can love someone like this. I probably don't - how could I? I do love our home and I love all the memories that we've shared. I love everything about my way of life except my wife's adultery and lies. She even said when she tried to go to England last week "I'm not going to have sex - I'm pregnant for heaven's sake. I just need to unburden my guilt and sort myself out emotionally.".

So there you go. I told her dad who lives with us last night that W had gone to see her adultery partner in England and he's stunned.

I am supposed to attend a christening this Sunday for W's sister's new baby. I have been asked to be a godfather but I really don't think in good conscience that I can do this. I would just feel utterly stupid beyond measure.

W has said that all of this is "in her head" and "it's probably a fantasy GH31, he did everything that you didn't do so it's probably too good to be true" but to me it's reality and a dreadfully unpleasant one. There is just nothing to work out in this marriage - it isn't even a marriage. Talking just goes around in circles and W just lies through her teeth about everything.

I know that my life cannot function properly whilst she is a part of it - I can't plan for the future, concentrate at work ... any of that, and I have no idea what will become of this baby.