Exposure, done correctly, should never be about shame or condemnation. It should be a loving but firm gesture, that says "I love myself too much to allow this to continue, and I love YOU too much to let you continue in this without a fight."
Done properly, it is basically a marital intervention, and it can be quite effective. It can, however, then make the "repair" work that much more difficult.
Puppy
Not to quibble PT, but how does Christlike forgiveness "make the repair work that much more difficult"? More difficult than what? What are the alternatives to real forgiveness, that actually result in the full restoration of the M?? Just living "under the same roof" "marriages" if people want to call it that, is not really the goal. I stand by my statement, (which I did not "invent"), that true & full restoration of a M cannot happen without losing shame as a weapon, and embracing the loving forgiveness that we are meant to embrace.
(hey PT, I may have misunderstood you, so I'm just asking for clarification. But anyhow, what did you mean?)
(( J- ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
