What you will find is that most likely you have softened.. to the outside world. But not so much to the world you hold close. I say this simply because that is what I have learned from all this. We tend to project onto those that are close.. cause they should know us. They should have hard skin. It begins to wear on them. That is why they blame us.

I can see this - I know I was probably harder on him bc he was closest to me.

Thanks for all the good advice. If you read post to Jimbo, it gives some details of this weekend. Trying to GAL. Trying to detach.

BTW - good music choices! I get it.


Me 36, Him 33
M 11yrs, T 15yrs
S 8, D 7
ILYBINILWY - 1/09
H moves out 10/09
D to be final SOON I HOPE!