Found a pearl just before bedtime..."We have to keep making ourselves better while they work their way through the fog. If they come out of it and notice us standing there all buff, confident and successful, its their choice to take it or not."
No... at that point, it will be YOUR choice to invite them back into your life. Never adopt the attitude that you are a possession that can be relinquished and then re-acquired when it suits the WAS.
When you get your $hit together, you will know in your heart if you still want a relationship or not with this person. Confidence is a great quality and you will need to temper it with wisdom, when you do that, you will know what decision to make and you will know that the decision was yours all along.
