I'm so sorry for what you've been going through the last few days. But you have held yourself together with class and dignity. You inspire me with your strength.
I will have to check out that Imago Relationship Therapy you described.
This is just my opinion, but I think to be in a succesful marriage both spouses need to completely accept each other, flaws and all. True love is complete acceptance and putting the other's needs ahead of your own. It sounds like your H had a problem with you not making enough money, therefore he was not ready to accept you completely even after you sold your house so you could be married to him. I think that your H currently lacks the maturity to be fully committed in a marriage.
I think my H lacks the maturity to be married, also. It's frustrating, we want our WAH to wake up and realize that maintaining a marriage means you have to take care of it, nurture it so it continues to grow and flourish. But they choose to take the "easy" route, running away. They are afraid of conflict and would rather not deal with it.
You are being smart by standing your ground on making sure you get a fair settlement. In the meantime, continue taking the high road. This is no refection on you, you are the one who has consistently demonstrated more maturity by wanting to work on your marriage. It's heartbreaking, I know, because I've only been married less than a year too.
Continue being true to yourself and know that there are other women who are experiencing the same kind of struggles. And don't give up hope that he may come around. I still have hope, but in the end I know that I will be okay, (make that great!) even if he chooses not to stay married to me.
Me 40 WAH 43 T 4 years M 9 1/2 months stepson 9 H left 1 month ago No D filed
