I'm feeling a little slipping! So I will have to try to pick you up a bit!
I think it is perfectly normal to have the down times, the trick is how you react to them. Here are some things to remember....
You are a good person. That's true whether you H is with you, with an OW, or on Mars. He doesn't get a vote on this subject anymore!
Take time for yourself. That might not even mean going out. Your kids are old enough, they don't need you to do everything for them. Take some time in the evening.... read a book, watch a girly movie, take a bubble bath... If you don't think everything that needs to get done around the house is getting done, assign the kids some chores! You son is old enough to do a reasonable (not perfect, probably) on a bathroom, he can certainly drive a vacuum cleaner, load a dishwasher...
Remember that you are a good mom. You are not damaging your kids. OF course your H will say that, since the situation certainly can't be his fault! Your kids are going to remember that you are the one that was there for them. Don't let his words hurt you!
Treese, you do have a lot of love to give. And you will receive a lot, too. Start by loving yourself. Because you deserve it!
