Agh! He's detached completely!

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

Oh, more stuff. I found something about a marriage therapy I hadn't heard of before, Imago Relationship Therapy or something like that on the NIMH website. I think it would be a lovely idea to try it because it's premise is that we pick a partner that has the issues we ourselves need to work on. Apparently, a lot of couples go through the infatuation stage, then the next stage of disillusionment and so on, and never make it through the acceptance of the other person's flaws stage, and lastly, the best stage, loving them anyways! I think that we are still stuck as a couple in stage #2, however, I'm willing to go through the rest of it and have already done #3 on my own, but he hasn't. I don't think he'd be willing to go to this weekend program for Imago unless it was recommended by our MC. I'd say his therapist, but frankly, I hate her from how he acts after a session with her and the fact that she's been telling him to get out of the marriage for months now, instead of working through our issues. Imago talks about that too, saying that we all have to "grow up" and face the issues through marriage, and it isn't easy.

My friend, and ex bf, the attorney stood me up yesterday for our meeting. I'm really upset about it because I had called him just to ask a few simple questions about a form I'm filling out, and he told me he'd be happy to sit down with me and go through the form one on one at his office. He also said it would be free, and frankly, the way he hurt me repeatedly by coming into and out of my life (and me letting him back in 2 more times) makes me feel 100% cool about accepting his help because I've earned it and then some, with all the tears I cried for him. Now he's not responding to my calls at all, and I'm ticked off. If he didn't want to answer my questions even, he should have been man enough to tell me that. Instead, I waited for an hour on the steps outside his office waiting for him. So, I'm going to submit this form without his help and hopefully it will be ok. It's rather simple, just the response to the initial divorce papers he filed, but I may well try to get help from the free legal clinic just to allay my concerns. I really don't need to be jerked around any more than I already have people!!!