oh, and regarding the "being the better person" statement, I was referring to me being better than past times when would have felt it was necessary to point out when H was not meeting responsibilities.
just having trouble knowing it if, given the state of things, its better to minimize hurting H.'s pride and feelilngs and all costs or if I am enabling him to continue his pattern of behavior where he agrees to address something and then lets it go, or waits until it is convenient for his time frame.
Me 30 H 33 together:10 years married:5 years Separated: 1/23/09 living apart 5 mos and counting "when you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on"-FDR
