I have decided after reading a bunch of the posts here that I am going to stop initiating any sort of conversation with my H unless it is absolutely necessary for the sake of our son. I am also going to start proceedings for a legal separation, which doesn't require a lawyer which I totally can't afford right now, the only divorce lawyer in my area is $250 an hour which is more than I make in a week. At least a legal separation will get me a legal custody and support settlement and also in this state frees me from any financial obligations on his debts which is good since he has even more debt than I do. But a legal separation WILL allow me to retain his health insurance. I am no longer going to call him on Sat and Sun mornings to see if he will be visiting. Nor will I continue wasting my weekends off sitting around waiting for him to show up knowing that he almost never does. If he comes out w/out calling and we are not here, that's his problem for not letting me know he is coming. Maybe after making the 2 hour drive from his house to ours a few times for nothing, he'll start giving me fair warning when he wants to visit.
