Fire's burning out...just smoldering

[Startingover2]

Its all a sick game. For any of these WAS's to admit they made a huge mistake would make them eat alot of crow! I think thier ego's are already so overinflated that admitting anything but success no matter how miserable they are would be a huge blow to them and what the world perceives.

[Tomato]

Hi Blindy

I see it is your birthday. Have a very happy one!!!

T

[Startingover2]

Happy Birthday!! I just sent you a text. Hope your day and weekend are great!

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

Happy Birthday, B!

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[kassie]

Happy Belated BD!

Forget the rest, hope you celebrated YOU! Blessing to you.

I am trying hard not to comment on your H behavior, you care about him and I'll let you have your feelings about him. Just know that you are ok, your d is ok, and he has a long way to go in life and a lot to learn about himself and his R.

[Startingover2]

Hi BS! I got your text this morning. Had my phone down so exh couldn't bug me. Sorry! I will text you in a bit as its early.

He is a loser. Let him go. Get the T shirt and give it to him as a D present.

We both need to let go for our own sanity.

Love you.

[Startingover2]

I know you had a rough weekend. I am thinking about you! Remember he is so ingenuine (if thats a word!). Hes gonna do it to her too.

[blindsided1]

Thank you everyone for the warm birthday wishes. It was a nice day. By the time I woke up, I had at least 2 dozen birthday emails, texts, messages. It was really nice. My friend took me to lunch. Then we went to dinner for my birthday and listened to a guitarist while drinking pear martinis...yum. H never called or texted...big surprise. So, Sat H calls and asks if we can have sex when he comes over. WTH? I said "no". He comes to pick K up around 7. It's a decent conversation. Tells me my birthday present is in his pants. SOrry, that's no present, anymore. He leaves. Calls about an hour later "did you file the divorce papers?". I tell him not yet, I'm doing it on the 18th. We get in a conversation and he tells me that he is marrying OW. I say "Fine. It's better for K and me, anyway. Now, when you quit or get fired, she can pay K's child support." And, hang up. I know...I was upset. I knew it was coming, but it still hurt. He texts me some mean thing and says "just finalize our divorce". I text back "It's be done soon. I don't love you anymore. Sad, isn't it? That I tried so hard to continue to love you knowing you didn't give a sh!t about your pregnant wife. She did me a favor, I just didn't know it til now. Good Luck" End of convo

Sunday, he brings her home 2 hours earlier than he said he would...guess what? He asks me if we can go in the house and have sex. I said "Are you crazy? You tell me you are marrying someone else, can't wait to divorce me and now you want to have sex?" He says, "Well, there's still time before you aren't my wife anymore". He's an idiot. An utter idiot.

MIL said K had a good time at the birthday party he threw for K. Too bad only 4 of the 30 people there were related to her or even knew her. Seems weird that OW's friends and family are celebrating MY daughter's birthday. They don't even know her.

I have to admit, it kinda hurt to know that it wasn't H and I giving her a birthday party together as a family. It still makes me angry that OW gets to have MY family and MY H and destroyed mine, to get it. I know life isn't fair. But, it still hurts. She deserves NOTHING. And, when she realizes that this "family" is as phoney as phoney, gets...well, she'll be broke, in debt up to her ears and tied to a man who is basically just an anchor.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

B--

Your STBX has some SERIOUS issues, no make that subscriptions! You don't need him and K certainly does not need a full time dad like that. He needs some serious help. The OW is going to get hers in the end--he is incapable of fidelity.

Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~
SMW

[blindsided1]

Thanks SMW. I know that he is a broken mess. So, why does it hurt so much to watch him to pretend to be a family with OW and her kids. This is what I can't seem to get my head around. If I think about it, I tell myself that he can't really "love" OW all that much if he is still asking me for sex on a weekly, if not more, basis. I know HE is not the type of man I would want to be married to. I would always be afraid that he was cheating on me....ALWAYS. So, why does it still hurt that he didn't choose ME & Kendall? He chose someone who bought him, trapped him by getting pregnant, which is what she does.

If I really sit down and logic it out....I know the two of them are living in a fantasy world. She talks about how wonderful he is...he cooks, he cleans, he takes care of her and the kids...blah blah blah. Maybe they should get married...because once he feels "safe" the real HIM will come out. He'll stop being Mr. Perfect and start being Mr. Leach.

So, if any men are reading this....tell me, again, if you loved some woman and were going to marry her, would you still be constantly and consistantly trying to have sex with your STBX wife? I just don't get it.

I know I'm harping...but, my Mom was saying that she thinks the whole "family" thing...the pictures, the party for K with people who don't even know her, my H cooking and OW posting how wonderful he is on FB, my H even made my daughter's birthday cake. He DOESN'T cook. At least he didn't when he was with me. So, my Mom says that she believes that both of them are putting up this fake front because 1) OW wants more than anything to be married and have a "family"...even if it is a fake one, even if she destroyed someone elses to get it, she wants it and any cost. That could also mean she doesn't really even care that it's my H. It could have been anyone who was willing to marry her. Makes a lot of sense. And, 2) My H has to prove to everyone that he made the right decision...see I have my family, my house, a new wife, a new life, I'm happy. It's better that I walked out on my pregnant wife...look how much happier "I" am.

A$$holes.