Glam, I'm sorry he didn't show up to assist w/the cleaning of the garage. However, I'm very proud of you for not doing it by yourself. You'll have another day to this, but I'm going to suggest something for you to try. Okay?
It appears that when you and your h plan things, the plans fall through...so, why not make plans for the coming weekend as a spur of the moment thing for him? In other words, you plan what you want done, but don't tell him until he gets there. There is a method to his madness and something clicked on your posting...passive agressive behavior. Your h has done of the exact same things that my xh did and yes, my xh was depressed as heck prior to walking out the door and as far as I can tell, still remains that way today, i.e., still self-medicating with the internet chat rooms and now Twitter. I found that when I didn't tell him what I would like to have done, it went smoother and no excuses could be thought up for that particular day.
I know that I've said this before, but keep expectations at zero and you've done well this weekend with that! I wish that I could get inside his head and see what is going on w/him, but it's nothing more than depression and most likely passisve aggressive behavior at work too. Be kind to yourself and take a rest when you need it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
