Renee, I agree with Sandi about folks here getting frustrated and don't know how to help you if you won't take what they say to heart. You say that you listen to what they say, but what good does that do if you don't act on it?
By the same token, I see why you may be confused. One minute, posters are saying they don't believe your sitch is MLC, then it isn't, then it is again. I would have whiplash too.
The main thing is that your ex has moved on and you need to as well.
