Stuck - I have been trying to call H since the day he failed to show up. Haven't been able to get through to him. Even went so far as to call the MIL and was told he got called away on business unexpectedly and she doesn't know when he will be back. Not sure if I believe her or not - she said he had to go to Tokyo and normally he does tell me if he has to leave the country, it wouldn't be like him to leave me out of the loop on his international trips. Of course not bothering to tell me might just be him emotionally detaching himself even more from S and I. But the MIL lying to me wouldn't be unusual either. Mishka - DR didn't say the private school was necessary, just that it might be a better place for him. If he goes to public school, b/c he needs to be in a small class, he would probably get relegated to the classroom for the learning disabled - which would be horribly unfair to him as he is extremely intelligent. The private school I am considering allows a maximum of 8 children per classroom which would be ideal for him while still leaving him in a normal learning environment. I wish I could keep homeschooling him, which is what I have done for kindergarten, but now that I am off disability I can't afford to not be working. SID is not considered serious enough for me to apply for disability for him. I don't know if the court would force my H to pay for the school or not - he already gives me $800 a month, I make $800 a month, and the school is $300 a month. So they might tell me to take it out of my own income if it is so important to me. Especially since H is supporting his widowed mother and his late father's widowed sister as well - both of whom are seniors with health issues. If I took him to court, the CS payments would probably go up to about $1200 a month (yes he makes a lot of money) our state law is 17% of the non-custodial parent's income for one child up to a maximum of 40% of the income for 4 children or more. I did talk to a divorce attorney when he first mentioned the idea of divorce 2 years ago, she told me the court would very likely adjust his support level DOWN because my parents don't charge me rent and I have no utility payments which keeps my costs of living fairly low. But - I desperately need a new car if I am to continue working and I also have astronomical medical bills which I am paying off little by little every month, and my medical costs are likely to be a regular part of the rest of my life since I have heart meds I have to take daily and I have to have a stress echo and kidney and liver function tests every 6 months to make sure that everything is working properly. And if we divorce, I lose the health insurance we have through his employer, so I would have to work something out in that regard. My employer is very small and doesn't offer benefits of any sort.
