This still sounds very co-dependent to me:

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I love my W and i will be the best man i can be for her, whether she is here with me or not. I will show her love by taking care of myself, the house, my life... even if that means she never comes back.


You don't do this for HER. You do this for YOU. In working on YOU, if she finds she is attracted to "the new you," then so much the better, but you DON'T do these things while looking over your shoulder all the while, hoping she's noticing.

Does that make sense?

That's the first thing I wanted to say. The second thing was, if she DOES show up, what do you plan on saying/doing about the affair she's obviously having? Do you have any boundaries you plan on communicating, or are you just going to ignore it?

I do think she loves you. I just think she's morally WEAK in this area, and I think you enable that in a lot of ways, which shows her weakness, which makes you less attractive, and then it feeds on itself. That doesn't make her infidelity YOUR FAULT -- that's her poor choice alone -- but it does mean you have a role in the marital dynamic which maybe enables it.

Does that make any sense?

I like the GAL stuff you're doing, don't get me wrong. Just make sure you're doing it for YOU, and not because you're hoping she notices. What time is she supposed to come by tomorrow? I'd strongly suggest that you not be there.

Puppy