I think that my sitch is going to end up pretty much like yours. Will W be able to make it on her own...who knows. The way she goes out and parties right now...not going to happen. She's gonna have to cut way back on her social life to even have a chance at it. Kinda glad about the legal separation from that perspective because I will be protected from that. And will she rethink things? Maybe, once she hits rock bottom. My IC said pretty much the same thing. That she will need to crash hard (which he and I both believe will happen) before she comes out of the fog and starts thinking about more than herself. Will I still be around...don't know. I'm going into this separation like it will be a divorce. Not that I'm going to run out and start up a new relationship because that's really not where I'm at right now. But I am going to keep working on myself and making myself happy and who knows what will happen from that. If I find that I want to be in a relationship with someone else then I will initiate turning the LS into a D. That's the only fair thing to do for everyone's sake. It's not what I want but I'm playing the hand i've been dealt for everything it's worth.
