Divorce looming #14

[K4D]

CG,

I get the story. I am enabling her to keep on acting the way she is. I let her do what she wants and then I reward her by being there for her for whatever she needs or wants which just further enables her to treat me this way.

I did pick her up and take her and D7 from the store to the house and I helped her make stuff so she could take it to her best friends house for the afternoon since she was hurting from a pinched nerve. MIL brought D11 to the house and I stayed in while she dropped her off.

W's birthday is this week and I stupidly asked if we were going to do anything for her birthday since she had wanted us to do something together for mothers day and she wants to get together for fathers day. She said no for the birthday. She said her and her family and the kids are going out to dinner on Wednesday and then she has a happy hour being thrown for her on Friday. She suggested I take the kids to a balloon festival on Friday night of which she said she would not be joining us even though she likes those because of her birthday happy hour. I said ok. I did buy her a birthday present that she wanted and I am supposed to come over tomorrow for a sea food boil when I pick up the kids to bring them back for the week with me.

I'm beginning to think this stuff is more pity for me than her wanting to spend time with me which is not good. And the rest is just using me when she has nobody else to turn to.

And I am enabling it. I guess I miss her so much I just make myself willing to jump at it to be with her.

She always thanks me for taking the kids on her time and I tell her she doesn't have to thank me for wanting to spend time with my kids. I tell her my kids are more important to me than anything else I would be doing. And she thanks me anyways. I tell her don't thank me for spending time with my kids.

I guess I do need to break down the goals further. I will have to give that more thought. Anyways, me and D11 are spending the afternoon together since W and D7 are at her best friends house for the afternoon and D11 didn't want to go. So I am going to look for something for us to do. I just thought I would respond to this real quick.

Kevin