Wow. I'm really sorry to hear about your D. That is so tough on so many levels. I don't know how you do it. Gee, do you think an MD would have a problem with her weight??? Not a surprise he won't take her.
I really feel for you son too. To live with someone you are even willing to say you hate.
I am hopeful that new medicine and or medical advances will help you with minimally the pain. It is amazing what folks can learn to tolerate.