he was back, i think

[mdoodles]

for a large part of our time apart, i took the db approach well before i even know what db was. it didnt drive us to divorce, but nothing improved...then i slowly started warming up to him, opening up alittle more and being more playful, more comfortable, and it changed him in response.

my problem, our problem is the piecing. piecing is extremely hard. and i did not enforce the no contact.

so for now, i will continue not calling him first, i rarely even return his phone calls, not questioning his whereabouts, not questioning about ow, not questioning the status of our relationship.

but i will continue to be friendly and playful when its comfortable, i will continue to make our home the place he will want to be.

and if we get to the point where he wants to come home, or rather, knowing him, just shows up, boundaries must be enforced and the no contact is mandatory, and i will need proof that she is out of the picture.

i know i cannot rely on his word or rely on him sleeping home every night. its clear somehow they started talking again, or who knows, never stopped.