Kev, you are again confusing your vows & religious views with an excuse for being stuck in your terror of change, and DOING nothing differently. (That is why I recommended the book "Blue Like Jazz"). I have a whole long post on the misuse of faith and God and all that, but I just remembered...I already posted that to YOU. And it got us both nowhere.
WHY are you choosing this spin on the vows & pretending it's all about your religious views? B/C if YOU ARE around for her at her beck and call, then when she needs a favor, you might get the call and of course you will be there, waiting of course, and never GAL of your own, b/c that's hard.for YOU (as if it was easy for anyone here) so Kev, you better be there for THAT minute in which she MIGHT give you a scrap of her attention. That's enough right? Oh and MAYBE YOU'LL GET A HUG? What's that? No hug? (SIGH) Oh, well, maybe next year for that...
IN the meantime Kev you keep on being there 'REGARDLESS OF CIRCUMSTANCE" so if she needs you to go to the store and buy some more condoms for OM, why not? If she wants you to book a flight for her and OM to take yet another romantic trip, why shouldn't you? And change the sheets after they've been in bed b/c you know how she likes clean sheets...After all, YOU "LOVE" HER....and isn't that what love means? and YOU take those vows seriously and are "always going to be married to her no matter what"... [u]B/C A scrap of attention from her, even negative, maybe a "thank you" every now and then, is ENOUGH FOR YOU and it is MUCH more appealing to you, than having to [/b] change OR RESPECT yourself[/u]. It must be. Gee that Sure sounds exactly like what God had in mind for you, for "marriage" and for all of us, and it's sure healthy..[/u]
[b]Well Kev, you may shake your head now, but it IS apparently enough for you. You have demonstrated that, you have PROVED that to all of us, and your w, and your daughters And that is what the c needs to hear you say b/c as sad and sick as that must be to see in writing,[u] it is the truth with you. And it is very sad and very sick. And you are blind to that, b/c your neediness is so vast and the emptiness in you so deep...
Aside from how UNattractive that is in a man, it's not healthy for your kids or you. What a miserable choice you are making with your life.
j-
PS if faithfulH contacts you, since he might be in the Dallas area right now, that'd be a real blessing for you .
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
