I hate my H

[Done in VA]

I appreciate you chiming in - the more the merrier. It's so hard when I bring up the childhood stuff bc I don't want to make excuses for myself. It is VERY hard when you have someone who cannot recognize the issues are within himself.

I know that this path has to be traveled by him & him alone, but keep wondering if I could ask MC to refer him to IC. Maybe he would go if she told him she thought that was best.

Where in VA are you? I'm thinking I need to move out of this state - bad luck for marriages LOL