I came home last night and took down every picture of us in the house, I moved back into the Master BR and moved her stuff into the guest BR. She left me our joint Visa (which I cancelled last night) and built a pile of stuff that includes a bracelet she just bought me, a few special rings we bought together, an emblem of out initial love and my wedding ring with a note that says "These belong to you again"; she'll probably see this on Monday.
I would be interested to hear puppy's input on this, he usually has excellent advice. However, from a woman's perspective, the quote above describes the act(s) of a sullen, petulant child. Certainly, you're justified. I totally feel for you and you have every right to be furious, devastated, untrusting, etc. But if you have any interest at all in working with her to save the marriage, you might want to dismantle your little shrine of pissyness there. It reads as a petty act of vengeance.
The "do nothing for at least twenty-four hours" advice is solid gold. You can't undo the rest of the exposure, etc (which may turn out to be for the best anyhow) -- but this ... fine, you did it. You expressed yourself. Now you might want to undo it before she sees it. Because that part doesn't seem like a strong man taking control. It seems like a hurt little boy hitting back. Which doesn't function in your favor. JMHO.
Hang in there.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
