IL,
I like the sound of this post. Good for you. The DivorceCare group is a wise decision, and will help you to find your balance. I think they come from a Christian perspective, but are open to anyone.

I'm not sure how you're defining detachment. I think of it as establishing and maintaining physical and emotional boundaries so that we can use our energy wisely, and not get pulled into maladaptive patterns (relational and internal).

CL

CL 53 W 54
M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching