All good things. And yes, he's second guessing himself. I think you need to stay detached, and yes, if you can DO NOT contact him first.
This has to be his idea. He has to be the one to want to work on it first.
Nights are pretty bad. The bed feels different when their weight isn't there to even it out. Sleep in the middle. That helps me a lot.
You can do this. You are so great.