I wish I could give you an easy way out....or even something you haven't thought of.....but, I have to tell you that you actually have VERY GOOD insight into your own sitch....AFTER you mess up. The key is to prepare yourself so you don't mess up in the first place. For example, your W's friend's birthday surely was not a surprise...and you were probably very aware of it being potentially painful for you to deal with...so, why would you even make a "joking" comment about not being invited? You know that you were hoping your W would say, "Oh, LNMW, I didn't realize you wanted to join us....how inconsiderate of me!" Yeah, it sounds ridiculous huh? Not gonna happen! Your own advice to yourself is the best....exercise, GAL, go back to core DBing....forever! You cannot let your happiness rise and fall with your W's actions. You MUST be strong....100% trustworthy....for now. There will come a day when your W will comfort you....but, it is far further in the future than you realize or would want it to be. When you said your W has more healing to do....that is true....but SO DO YOU! It is never just about our spouses.....and in many of our cases it may be WAY MORE ABOUT US....and our healing than we realize. The good news....we don't how have to worry about this....we deal with only what we can control....and let God have the rest! You are doing great! Even though I'm in Dallas except for every other weekend....I'm still counting on that wedding invitation....SOON! LOL! Keep it up!
I am home with my lovely W and kids this weekend....today is my daughter's 22nd birthday and tomorrow is our 29th wedding anniversary! Trust me when I say that everything you are going through is WORTH IT....and the payoff is HUGE!
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
