I'm one of those guys who's W (now ex) pursued OM from 18 years ago. I don't know if it applies to everyone's situation who goes through this, but I know in my ex's case, she was and still is scared to death of aging. Some of us are more graceful at it than others.
Whatever you do, DON'T feel you have the need to contrast yourself against the OM. DON'T COMPETE with him. First off, she see it as it is and secondly it will make you look insecure. Not exactly an attraction buzz for her.
Why don't you go out on the weekends and ignore her like the OM does? Give her some well deserved ALONE time.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
